The fourth trimester is the 12-week period immediately after you have had your baby. Not everyone has heard of it, but every mother and their newborn baby will go through it. It is a time of great physical and emotional change as your baby adjusts to being outside the womb, and you adjust to your new life as a mom.
Helping your newborn adjust to the world
Named by paediatrician Dr Harvey Karp in 2002, the term ‘fourth trimester’ suggests that you should try to recreate, for another 3 or 4 months, the kind of environment your baby had in the womb. But just how do you do that?
Swaddling and swaying
Babies spend 9 months in a confined and constantly moving environment. There are several ways you can re-create the sense of safety and security your baby felt before they were born. By swaddling your baby when you put them down to sleep, you will let them feel secure, and you might find they wake less frequently and sleep for longer.
‘Wearing your baby’ in a sling across your chest can feel familiar to them. But it’s important to make sure you use the sling correctly, since they can cause injury if not properly fitted.
Movement is also a great way to calm your baby. Gently swaying or rocking from side to side, walking whilst carrying them or even taking a quick car trip can settle your baby.
Skin to skin contact
Skin to skin contact is always encouraged in the moments after you give birth, but this type of contact should continue long after you have left the birthing room. Cuddling your newborn on bare skin is a great comfort to them. Your smell and the sound of your heartbeat is warm and familiar. This is also something your partner can do.
Whether you are breastfeeding or bottle-feeding, if your baby is hungry, don’t wait for a scheduled time to feed them. Combine feeding your baby with skin to skin contact to reinforce close contact and comfort.
Having a warm bath is often a relaxing and comforting experience for newborns. Floating in the water is like being in the womb. It’s also a great way for you to bond, talk and sing to your baby.
What does the fourth trimester mean for mom?
For you, the fourth trimester is a time of great change. When the baby arrives, quite often the focus shifts to them and as a result, moms can overlook their own health and wellbeing.
Newborns take up lots of time. It’s very easy for new moms to be overwhelmed in the first few weeks by the demands of feeding, sleeping (or lack of), crying and looking after a baby. Combined with the physical recovery after giving birth and the changes to their hormones, it’s no wonder moms feel exhausted!
Ask for help
In some cultures, new moms spend the first few weeks totally focused on bonding and recovering with their newborn. Other people, usually a family member like a mother, sister or aunty, will stay with them to do the other things around the house and help out with the baby when needed.
In America, however, most women after a couple of days after the baby arrives, attempt to continue to do everything as before.
If you have a partner, encourage them to assist and participate in parenting as much as possible. The two of you are in this together and there are lots of things you both can do to share the load.
You don’t want a procession of people coming over, but a few family and friends can help by:
helping with household chores
looking after your other children (if this is not your first child)
looking after the baby while you rest
Accept help and don’t be afraid to ask.
Eat good, nutritious food
You will need lots of energy in those first few months, so eating a variety of healthy foods will help give you the boost you need. Some some light exercise will also help with your recovery and energy levels. But make sure to give your body time to heal and take it at your own pace.
Sleep when you can
It might sound obvious, but you need to sleep. It’s going to take a while for your baby to settle into a routine and even then, they will have you up at all hours of the night. If you can, try and sleep when your baby is sleeping, or ask your partner or a family member to look after your baby while you get some rest.
When to see your midwife
Your body has been through a lot over the past 9 months. Your physical recovery will take time, but it’s important to speak to your midwife if you have any of the following:
heavy bleeding or passing of clots
high temperature or fever
offensive-smelling vaginal discharge
a hard or painful lump in your breast
an area around stitches that is red, hot or oozing
pain, tenderness or a warm area in your legs
Many women also experience the ‘baby blues’ in the first few days after giving birth, but if these feeling are not going away, it’s important you see your midwife as soon as possible. Postnatal depression affects 1 in 7 women in America, and it is nothing to be ashamed of,